Case 1
They were pursuing Management course Together. They Started talking casually then came the phase of dropping to Residence, and Poking from the Batch mated. Then they started relationship grew up with tele conversation for hours and hours which lasted for few months.( Probably till the the time some family member got to know this….. My guss) then Suddenly something happened , and the latter decide that they will continue a Silent Friendship ( I don’t know what is this). They stopped talking to be more precise the more mature one ie the lady stops the preceding. The Guy got in a phase of irritation, Vomition of her nature, Gloomy phase started from him… face dumped, mood depressed, enthu degraded, things turmoiled ( As normally happens in such state).
Thanks to his friends who supported him in such mental arena and was bought to a state where he could live not easily but can cut his days without red eye, without tears in the eye. This phase continued for around 4-5 months and the Second one was shattered. From Top performer to average performer was the degradation of him. Then one day he decided to end this all and send a mail no reply from the other side ( Earlier also many such instance happened ) then he finally send a mail with Heading…….. TUNE ES RISTE KA KHOON KIYA HAI ….. AB JANAJA MAI NIKALUNGA… And to the surprise was out of the box, this mail fought for a call, and he received the call from the same known number for which he was waiting for many many hours , many days, many weeks, many months.
Again the relationship started but the interaction was for few minute only and it never then got personal. The guy Started thinking WHY HAVE I STARTED THIS. Why I let her enter into my world better I should have gone for the flesh part only why mental attachment……………..
Note -> Case of Extra Marital affair at both ends.Thanks to his friends who supported him in such mental arena and was bought to a state where he could live not easily but can cut his days without red eye, without tears in the eye. This phase continued for around 4-5 months and the Second one was shattered. From Top performer to average performer was the degradation of him. Then one day he decided to end this all and send a mail no reply from the other side ( Earlier also many such instance happened ) then he finally send a mail with Heading…….. TUNE ES RISTE KA KHOON KIYA HAI ….. AB JANAJA MAI NIKALUNGA… And to the surprise was out of the box, this mail fought for a call, and he received the call from the same known number for which he was waiting for many many hours , many days, many weeks, many months.
Again the relationship started but the interaction was for few minute only and it never then got personal. The guy Started thinking WHY HAVE I STARTED THIS. Why I let her enter into my world better I should have gone for the flesh part only why mental attachment……………..
Case 2
A girl after completing 12th came to a bigger city than hers, stayed at her relative place. There only she met a guy who a very cool and calm, very polite. They used to go together to marketing, for Visiting holy places with family. In the mean time the relationship developed and then they both started to go on long drives together preferably in the evening. Drive for 1 hour or 2 hour depending on their mood and energy. Then the girl went to even bigger City to continue her management course and the Guy use to visit their…. Even he was too generous that he arranged for most of the trip like Goa Trip, Trip to her Home and the Resident Place etc.. etc. He gave the emotional, sentimental or fiscal support as and when needed or fitted. This all lasted for around 4-5 years till the time they matured. In the mean time they decided to go with Living relationship without changing their status. They planned to settle in the Delhi (Most happening Place) and the guy was supposed to visit every month and stay their for 10 to 12 days and to go ahead with this.
In between many misunderstanding occur but was shorted out, further misunderstanding or intentional activity started taking place like the guy started neglecting the call and in the mean time due to this gap ,many trip of her was not in the information of him. As one case she went to Kol but this was not known to him cause he was not picking the call. This added moer to the uneven cause or intentional cause.
But one point was there that he was very supportive in one instance when the G.Mom of the lady departed due to illness. According to the lady she use to share and confide for each and every thing with her G.Mom and her friend, nobody else was there to share their thoughts. If fact she was so foolishly committed that she did not allowed anyone to enter in the life of her even when she got many offer, when she was doing management course. She was also having few good contacts but she ignored them all cause her intention was loud and clear.
In between what happened the guy got a new affair. Her new affair was from a girl of the same city. She was easily accessible and was too doing management course in the same city. They could meet daily physically and can share the thoughts face to face. ( Guy are always on look out for such closeness might me for few months of attraction. Whether they admit or not they all are open to this, on the other hand gals are more thinker in that case they can satisfy themself but mental attachment takes time.)
The affair grew cause it was easy to meet, and the earlier one got the breaking signals and finally after twist and turns the guy decided that he lvs but will not continue and will go ahead with new one. The girl dreams shattered, hopes collapsed, Emotion turmoil ed, sentiment broked , horribly cheated and was in a stage where she was wanting to leave the world ASAP. But again few friends gave her support to come out of the phase and settle somewhere else from the related place. She now is serching someone to get marry to get out of this emotional wreck and satisfy herself.
Note :- The Guy is a Married Business man having children and the girl is in her early twenty ,…. Case of Extra Marital affair.
In between many misunderstanding occur but was shorted out, further misunderstanding or intentional activity started taking place like the guy started neglecting the call and in the mean time due to this gap ,many trip of her was not in the information of him. As one case she went to Kol but this was not known to him cause he was not picking the call. This added moer to the uneven cause or intentional cause.
But one point was there that he was very supportive in one instance when the G.Mom of the lady departed due to illness. According to the lady she use to share and confide for each and every thing with her G.Mom and her friend, nobody else was there to share their thoughts. If fact she was so foolishly committed that she did not allowed anyone to enter in the life of her even when she got many offer, when she was doing management course. She was also having few good contacts but she ignored them all cause her intention was loud and clear.
In between what happened the guy got a new affair. Her new affair was from a girl of the same city. She was easily accessible and was too doing management course in the same city. They could meet daily physically and can share the thoughts face to face. ( Guy are always on look out for such closeness might me for few months of attraction. Whether they admit or not they all are open to this, on the other hand gals are more thinker in that case they can satisfy themself but mental attachment takes time.)
The affair grew cause it was easy to meet, and the earlier one got the breaking signals and finally after twist and turns the guy decided that he lvs but will not continue and will go ahead with new one. The girl dreams shattered, hopes collapsed, Emotion turmoil ed, sentiment broked , horribly cheated and was in a stage where she was wanting to leave the world ASAP. But again few friends gave her support to come out of the phase and settle somewhere else from the related place. She now is serching someone to get marry to get out of this emotional wreck and satisfy herself.
Note :- The Guy is a Married Business man having children and the girl is in her early twenty ,…. Case of Extra Marital affair.
(I will Put few other cases in coming days apart from lesson on losing yours and making up affairs. )
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Girl do NOT wait for him. I know he was your first everything, but he WILL NOT be the last guy that cares about you. The best is yet to come..I promise. We all go through heartache and breakups because it's a way of learning what we really want out of a husband. Stay Strong!!!! I know you can do this and you will be glad that you did! I know this sounds impossible so take it one step at a time...just don't communicate with him. He wanted his space...and it will be his loss.
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