Hum na Samjhe the........

Hum Na Samje thay.... Baat Itni Si...
Yeh Dil hay Sise Ka, aur Duniya Pathar Ki................

Choices.......

At times choices are not your choices...... they are the choices which are forced to be the choices.

I was not wanting to choose the option to retain my relationship but YES as they say that in INDIA getting into relation (marriage) is easy but getting out of it is really difficult. Even though it is well and publicly known that I can not and do not want to Continue this relationship still I am forced to continue the Relation. whether it is by my Well Known one may be it is SS or NK or SK or RP or whoever it may be everybody is forcing to chose what I don't want to choose. This is where this tradition comes into picture and one knows the problem and compulsion to be faced.

In the current scenario I have to take the decision from the odd one to continue the relation for one more time after which things will be either this side or that side.

Dont CRY......

We cry for them, who never care for us.
We care for them, who will never cry for us.
and we make them cry who always cares for us.


Never cry for anybody because the person for whom you cry, never deserve your tear and who really deserve it, will never let u cry.


Nazron ko tere pyaar se inkaar nahi hai,
Chah ker bhi ab yeh dil bekeraar nahi hai,
Hakiqat hai yeh koi khwaab nahi hai,
Meri khamoshi mera izhaar nahi hai,
Is dil ko kisi ka intzaar nahi hai,
Yeh sach hai ki ab mujhe kisi se pyaar nahi hai.

Ishq wale aankhon se aankhon ki baat samajh lete hain,
Sapne mein mil jayen to mulakaat samajh lete hain,
Roota to aasman bhi hai aapni derti ke liye,
Log uske aashkon ko barsaat samajh lete hain.


Paani ki khaani mein bhi, her pal jalna parha,
Dil ko mom ki tarah, din raat pigalna parha,
Her taraf hawaon ki sajish mere khilaf the,
Phir bhi toofan ke saath-saath chalna parha,
Use mehfil se uthker chale jaane se khoof tha,
Mujhe tanha reh ker,
Duniya ke aangan mein bikharna parha,
Uski aankhon mein,
Wafa ke iraade badal gaye the,
Aur Mujhe he,
Apne naam pe kuch ker gujarna parha,
Bebusi ke aalam mein,
Hum manjil khoh chuke the,
Naye safar ki talaash mein,
Ab aage badna parha,
Na jaane kahan le gaya "NISHA" badta huya janoon,
Aapni jindagi ki khaatir, mujhe khud se ladna parha.




Now something about sweet memories:

Wafaon ke liye meri, itna jaroor ker,
Nafrat ke liye he sahi, mujko kabool ker,
Haan ek baar mein, kaat de umeedon ka gala,
Yuhin rafta-rafta na, aarmano ka khoon ker,
Fanah hoker bhi kitna, sakoon paya hai,
Ek moj bahut khush hai, sahil ko choom ker,
Is sooch mein doobha huya, hai aasman,
Baadal kyon ja raha hai, sehra se rooth ker,
Pyaar ke raaste do din na, chal saka,
Aaya tha vo, kitne he toofano se joojhker.


Tera shukriya kis tarah aada karun,
Tu jaffa kare aur mein sadha wafa karun,
Meri mahobaat ne bus itna sikhaya hai mujhe,
Khud mit jayon aur tere liye duya karun,
Unhe pata hai meri rooh ke jakham ka behtar,
Wahin batayen main konse dawah karun,
Sajaa to mil gaye mujhe meri begunahi ki,
Sochte hun ab to koi gunah karun,
Badalna pyaar ko nafrat mein tune chaha hai,
Khud se derti hoon main kaise yeh gunah karun.


Chiragon ko jalayen umar bhar,
Saath de ger yeh hawayeen umar bhar,
Ek lamhe ki khata ka yeh sila,
Payee hain humne sajayeen umar bhar,
Kuch bhi na hasil humko ho saka,
Uske der per de sadayeen umar bhar,
Yaad aayengee bahut sach maaniye,
Unko aapni khatayeen umar bhar,
Pal do pal ka saathe dete hain sabhi,
Kon kerta hai wafayeen umar bhar,
Bhool jayunge, magar ek sharat hai,
Yo bhi na yaad aayen umar bhar.


Unse mile to shaher mein mashoor ho gaye ,
Hum aapne aap se bhi bahut door ho gaye,
Kya jaane kya kashish the unki baat baat mein,
Sab faislen unke mujhe manjoor ho gaye.
Kaise samunderon ki sadaayein the kaan mein,
Hum dhoobne ko ek din majboor ho gaye,
Ek ek kerke waqt ne dhaaye kye sitam,
Ek ek kerke Khyaab mere choor ho gaye,
"Nisha" huye the unse badi mukhtsar si baat,
Hum umar bhar ke vaaste masroor ho gaye.


Door reh ker unhe aur paas paya,
Yaadon ke Shunn bane mera humsaya,
Subah ki tabasum ho ya dopahar ki ho tapish,
Jab bhi aaya,
Uska Khayaal aaya,
Chaand bhi khila hai,
Taaron ke jhurmut mein,
Per kyon na mujhe yeh raas aaya,
Her shakhas ne poocha mera haale-dil,
Per na jaane kyon ,
Unse he na koi sawaal aaya.

Extracts from Nisha Mam Orkut Profile

Time is the most valuable thing a man can spend

Uneven Sentimental Change.........

It can often happen when u r heart Sentimentally that you start feeling something otherwise.

Someone who is very close to U and you anyhow want to have a meeting with her either personally or on phone..... U are desperate till the time u don't have a talk with. U feel something missing kind of till u have heard the voice. The moment u hear the same u are ready to end the day peacefully, otherwise u are having the cell in your hand for each second and U force your attention after and again after only to cross check that have not u received the call or the cell in not in silent mode knowing even that u have put it in vibrating or loud mode. That's the king of feeling which makes you so childish.

U R habituated to call each day or the alternate day knowing that u are not into any sort of affair or relationship but still the space in the as such which is not less than the committed relation. That's the type of relationship I too had.

Some word really heart and it heart more than a bullet when u are compared unfairly with someone. ( might be with a commited one) . you said something like... 'Saw your snap and was laughing on it......" and when asked about the reason, U said that " U are looking to have put down extrare weight ......... Thoda exercise ... Walking chalu kar lo........." and when u get a reaction "Usseya Kya ...... ko to mai pasand hu. U better keep your suggestion with u only"

Now this is ridiculeous. first , their is unfair comparision, are bhai duniya bus ek hi jagah simat ke rah gaye hai kya????? And this although not a big Issue creater statement, but it hearted me a lot and from that day onwords somewhere a strong feeling of not calling started to genrate... Everytime I wanted to call the statement run through the mind that it is just said and it forces you to restrict even if you wanted internally to call to talk but this strong feeling of comparision somewhere through you in the side basket and u somehow try to stop it.

I dont know whether it is correct or wrong doing but that is how I am ....as said by my known one to.. that "agar iske kuch aacha nahi lagta hai to yeh dire dire apne aap ko side kar leta hai ... not demanding a why or something" although few of them suggested that I should ask for something which I felt bad for but unfortunately I cant do it and I deside the action. In the above case too it happened and the reason is ................ :-(

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Todays Thought....

The best gift you can give is a hug:
one size fits all
and no one ever minds if you return it

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Favorate Songs for SAD moments......

There are times when sad songs cater to one’s mood. Sad Hindi songs are present in a large number of Hindi films. It is said that to understand the real depth of Music you need to listen to sad songs. Some of these sad songs have been sung and composed by the best music talent in the country. Whether it is a feeling of loss or a break up, sad songs can sum up all these feelings. They are the best remedy for you when you are dipressed and down. They offer a great help to overcome your strains .. just listen in full voice and mke sure u connect with the world .. I assure you you will really get the fighting back sprit. Try to realise that it is a fact u need to accept in any case... Let them heal through this... Best Recovery or better times...

Dard Mein Bhi Yeh Lab Muskura Jaate Hai, Beete Lamhein Hamein Jab Bhi Yaad Aate Hai



Beete Lamhein Hamein Jab Bhi Yaad Aate Hai

Chand Lamhaaat Ke Waaste Hi Sahi,

Muskuraakar Mili Thi Mujhe Jindagi

Teri Aaghosh Mein Din The Mere Kate,

Teri Baahon Mein Thi Meri Raate Kati.

Aaj Bhi Jab Woh Pal Mujhko Yaad Aate Hai,

Dil Se Saare Gamon Ko Bhula Jaate Hai

Dard Mein Bhi Yeh Lab Muskura Jaate Hai,

Beete Lamhein Hamein Jab Bhi Yaad Aate Hai

Beete Lamhein…….....

Aane Wala Pal Jane wala Hai........



Ab Tere Bin Jee Lenge Hum, Jahar zindagi ka pe lenge hum......



Ae Meri Zindagi Tu is tarah ..........

Aisa Koi Zindagi Se - Vaada to nahi tha.. Tere Bina jene ka irada to nahi tha...........

Alwida_alwida Aur Kya .............

Bade Acche Lagte Hai … Ye Nadiya Ye Darti Ye Ambar Aur Tum.........

Zindagi_Mein_Kabhi_Koi_Aaye ne rabba. Aae to phir kabhi jaya na rabba. Deno ho gar mujhe aakh me ashu.. ......

Dil Ke Arman Aasume me bah gaye.. Hum Wafa kar ke bi tanha rah gaye....

Ham The Jinke Sahare Wo Hua Na Hamare .......

Hosh Walo Ko Kabar Kya Zindagi kya cheez hai...............

Hothon_Se_Chhulo_Tum Mera geet amar kar do ......

Hum Bewafa Hargiz na the Magar hum wafa kar na sake......

Hum_Na_Samjhe_The baat itne si.. Dil hai Sise Ka , Duniya patar ki.......

Intahah Ho gayi Yar Ki .. aae na koi Kabar mere Yaar ki.. Ye hame hai Yaki.. Bewafa wo nahi......

Khoya Khaya Sa ......

kisi-najar-ko-tera-intezaar-aaj-bhi-hai ........

Kismat Ki lakiro ne .........

Koi Yeh Kaise Bataye ki wo Tanha kyo hai..........

Tuto hua Khabe ne Humko ye sikaya hai Dil ne jise cha tha.........

Manjile_Apni_Jagah_Hai_Raste_Apni_Jagah.Jab kadam hi saath na de to musaffir kya kare.........

Mera Dil Bhi Kitna Pagal Hai.............

Nadiya Chale Chale re dhara .............

Sach Keh raha hai dewanna… Dil.. Dil na kisi se lagana.. Jhute hai Pyar ke Vada..Vada. Jothi hai Puar ki Kasme..........

Tanhaiya …… Milo Dur Tan hai Tanhaye.............

Thoda_Sa_Pyar_hua hai .. Thoda hai Baki .............

Tu Is Tarah Se Meri Zindagi Mein Shamil Hai ...........

Tu Kya Pyar kare

Tu Nahin To Zindagi Mein Aur kya rah jaye ga..........

Tujhse Naraj Nahi Zindagi , haran hu mai...................

Tum Dil Ki Dhadkan me .. Rahte ho raheto ho...................

Yeh Kahan AA Gaye Hun ........................

Yun Zindagi Ki Raah Mein Majboor Ho Gaye.. Itne hua Kareb ki Hum Door HO gaye....

Zindagi Ka Safar Hai ye Kasa Safar Koi Samja Nahi , Koi Jana Nahi…....

Zindagi Ke Safar me Gujar jate hai jo makam, wo phir nahi aate wo phir nahi aate.....

Zindagi Ne Zindagi Bhar Gam Diye , Jitne bhi mausam diye sab nam diye.....

Zinddagi Ki Yahi Reet Hai … Hark e bad jeet hai .......

Some more from the attachment point of view.......

Chalte .. chalte mere ye geet yaad rakhna...... kabhi alwida na kahna...



Panchi nadiya pawan ke joke koi sarhad hame na roke.........



To is tarah se meri zindagi me samil hai...



Tum aeye to aaya muje yaad gali me aaj chand nikla



Jaadu Hai Nasha Hai Madhoshiyan Hai Tujhko Bhulake Aab Jaao Kahan

Todays Thought......

You can't plan the Future by the Past.

How he cares about....

How can my ex boyfriend still care about me so much if he broke up with me?

I'm 18 years old and just graduated high school last spring . I loved high school for the most part and what surprised everyone (and even myself) was when I started dating my friend who I've had a crush on since he was a freshmen. Problem is, while we're one year apart age wise. We're two years apart grade wise (When he was a sophomore, I was a senior). We always flirted and he really fell for me hard, I always liked him but I was afraid because he was younger. I never made a move on him and the tables turned last winter when he made a move on me at my last winter formal dance. I had an amazing time and he ended up going in for a kiss and kissing me. Everyone was shocked because I didn't date any guys in high school. I don't yearn for flings as much as real relationships. Regardless to say, he knocked me off my feet and even though I was about to graduate and he was a sophomore we started dating and I was the happiest I'd ever been in my life. I'm going to community college so I live nearby. But after summer ended things started to change.

He broke up with me once in September of last year for no real reason. He said he just wanted space. We both cried and I was a wreck. I'd never had a real first love/first boyfriend/first sex before and didn't know how to cope with losing him. I gave him some space but eventually fought for him back and we got back together less than a month later. We shared some really good memories and laughs and I can honestly say he was my bestfriend. I could go on and on about the things he's done for me to show how much he cares and respects me. But out of the blue he dumped me again several weeks ago. He just said he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. But it was nothing I did wrong. This time around I stopped talking to him for the most part even though it still pains me. I feel like a part of me died and he says he would take a bullet for me anyday and that he still thinks about me everyday. He says he's really messed up and confused and just needs to figure who he is. He said he felt like we were in a little marriage and already starting to solve problems and things were getting to routine and boring. He says he wants to remain friends after I get over him but I don't know if I can ever see him in that light ever again. I miss him everyday and love him so much it hurts. I can't stand to see him party and do stupid stuff since I've been there and done that and eventually you realize it's not all that it cracked up to be... Idk what to do. Is it stupid to wait? If he misses me and cares for me so much why did he break up with me?

Do you think when he matures more that he'll realize what he had?


(Extracts from Yahoo.... questions)

Some Instance of Affair Being Initiated....

Some Instance of Affair Being Initiated and.…… When and where one never Know…. Why and How God Can only Say……. ( this is a small compilation of such heard and read about )


Case 1

They were pursuing Management course Together. They Started talking casually then came the phase of dropping to Residence, and Poking from the Batch mated. Then they started relationship grew up with tele conversation for hours and hours which lasted for few months.( Probably till the the time some family member got to know this….. My guss) then Suddenly something happened , and the latter decide that they will continue a Silent Friendship ( I don’t know what is this). They stopped talking to be more precise the more mature one ie the lady stops the preceding. The Guy got in a phase of irritation, Vomition of her nature, Gloomy phase started from him… face dumped, mood depressed, enthu degraded, things turmoiled ( As normally happens in such state).

Thanks to his friends who supported him in such mental arena and was bought to a state where he could live not easily but can cut his days without red eye, without tears in the eye. This phase continued for around 4-5 months and the Second one was shattered. From Top performer to average performer was the degradation of him. Then one day he decided to end this all and send a mail no reply from the other side ( Earlier also many such instance happened ) then he finally send a mail with Heading…….. TUNE ES RISTE KA KHOON KIYA HAI ….. AB JANAJA MAI NIKALUNGA… And to the surprise was out of the box, this mail fought for a call, and he received the call from the same known number for which he was waiting for many many hours , many days, many weeks, many months.

Again the relationship started but the interaction was for few minute only and it never then got personal. The guy Started thinking WHY HAVE I STARTED THIS. Why I let her enter into my world better I should have gone for the flesh part only why mental attachment……………..

Note -> Case of Extra Marital affair at both ends.


Case 2

A girl after completing 12th came to a bigger city than hers, stayed at her relative place. There only she met a guy who a very cool and calm, very polite. They used to go together to marketing, for Visiting holy places with family. In the mean time the relationship developed and then they both started to go on long drives together preferably in the evening. Drive for 1 hour or 2 hour depending on their mood and energy. Then the girl went to even bigger City to continue her management course and the Guy use to visit their…. Even he was too generous that he arranged for most of the trip like Goa Trip, Trip to her Home and the Resident Place etc.. etc. He gave the emotional, sentimental or fiscal support as and when needed or fitted. This all lasted for around 4-5 years till the time they matured. In the mean time they decided to go with Living relationship without changing their status. They planned to settle in the Delhi (Most happening Place) and the guy was supposed to visit every month and stay their for 10 to 12 days and to go ahead with this.

In between many misunderstanding occur but was shorted out, further misunderstanding or intentional activity started taking place like the guy started neglecting the call and in the mean time due to this gap ,many trip of her was not in the information of him. As one case she went to Kol but this was not known to him cause he was not picking the call. This added moer to the uneven cause or intentional cause.

But one point was there that he was very supportive in one instance when the G.Mom of the lady departed due to illness. According to the lady she use to share and confide for each and every thing with her G.Mom and her friend, nobody else was there to share their thoughts. If fact she was so foolishly committed that she did not allowed anyone to enter in the life of her even when she got many offer, when she was doing management course. She was also having few good contacts but she ignored them all cause her intention was loud and clear.

In between what happened the guy got a new affair. Her new affair was from a girl of the same city. She was easily accessible and was too doing management course in the same city. They could meet daily physically and can share the thoughts face to face. ( Guy are always on look out for such closeness might me for few months of attraction. Whether they admit or not they all are open to this, on the other hand gals are more thinker in that case they can satisfy themself but mental attachment takes time.)

The affair grew cause it was easy to meet, and the earlier one got the breaking signals and finally after twist and turns the guy decided that he lvs but will not continue and will go ahead with new one. The girl dreams shattered, hopes collapsed, Emotion turmoil ed, sentiment broked , horribly cheated and was in a stage where she was wanting to leave the world ASAP. But again few friends gave her support to come out of the phase and settle somewhere else from the related place. She now is serching someone to get marry to get out of this emotional wreck and satisfy herself.

Note :- The Guy is a Married Business man having children and the girl is in her early twenty ,…. Case of Extra Marital affair.

(I will Put few other cases in coming days apart from lesson on losing yours and making up affairs. )

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Few Rules for thrown one

My Boyfriend/Girlfriend Dumped Me Out of the Blue - Tips to Survive

So, he was very good with you, and out of the blue he dumped you, you can not find any explanation of what happened, you found yourself lonely again, with no boyfriend, how could you survive this emotional turmoil if you don't know why did it happen? Or never went through this before?

I know it is too hard situation to deal and one wants help, and I want to offer help because the first time I went through this I wanted someone to help me, so here are some tips to survive it when your friend dumped you out of the blue.

- Forget about it, you don't need to talk about it to anyone who meet you anyweren , train , bus or in the office, think about the good things that happened to you after he had dumped you, at least you would save some money you were saving to get him a gift, buy yourself a new outfit, get a new hair cut or go on a shopping spree.

- Make a change in your life, you have plenty of free time now after he had dumped you, consider it as a blessing, get a new hobby, take some Yoga classes, join the gym, you will find many activities you can do, you will gain confidence from your fast progress in your new hobby and you will feel the positive energy overwhelming your soul.

- Make a party, gather all of your friends and start a party, talk about news, the latest celebrity gossip, watch a movie, play board games, chat with your friends and they might make it easy on you, they might tell you their real opinion about your ex boyfriend like if he was an idiot and you deserve someone better, you will have fun and get some support from your friends.

- Collect anything that reminds you of him and get them out of your sight,. if you had his photos all over your place, pack them and put them in the attic, you must prepare the scene to forget about him at least in this period.

- Try dating again, you must do it in a casual way like you are just having fun and passing time, you do not have to be serious with the new guy, you just want someone to help you forget about your ex boyfriend, if he was the one who dumped you out of the blue then you do not need to wait for him or respect his feelings.

- If you just can't handle it, try to drain your emotions, cry on your pillow when U R alone, write your feelings on the paper, and remember, life is full of opportunities, may be it was a blessing and he dumped you because you deserve someone better than him, do not look at the empty part of the glass, there are many other glasses that are full!

Surviving my own painful break up experience make me willing to help people not to fall in the same mistakes I have fallen into.

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How to Win Heart Back Again - Stupid Mistakes You Should Never Do

Most people make horrible mistakes when they try to get back the lost love, because we do not have rule book of the things we should and we should not do. All the advice we get are general and superficial. In order to win her heart back, you do not want to make things worse, that means no stupid mistakes are allowed.

If you refrained from these popular horrible mistakes I will tell you in a second, your chances of winning his/her heart back again will be doubled or tripled at least.

- Keep the famous no-contact rule

I think this rule is the most talked about, yet the least applied in break up situations. Do not text, call, e-mail or stalk your ex friend at any cost, at least at the first few days or weeks of the break up. He/She might need some space at this time, so if you kept calling he/ she might find you a real pain in the rear.

- Do not show you are desperate or needy.

Yes, you need to curb your true feelings in front; you can weep till your pillow is soaked or ask why he/she had dumped you only if you are behind closed doors and alone. But when you see him/her, you have to pretend that you are really moving on, living the life and having new activities and friends to hang up with.

- Do not apologize constantly promising that you are going to change.

Remember that your ex knows about you, He/she would not be fooled if you kept apologizing for everything, even if it was not your fault, He/she might think you are doing that because you want to win him/her heart back again with any cost. Promising to change is not only a job of mouth; if you are really willing to change then it must show in your behavior and actions. Do not underestimate your ex friend's intelligence by saying thing you do not intend to do.

- Do not blame anyone or anything else for the breakup.

Some people like to escape from the responsibility, they hang all their failure on other people or on the circumstances, and sometimes they accuse fate. Do not say, "It is not my fault or your fault". Take responsibility and be open with your ex friend. The most necessary step to win your ex friend heart back again is to rebuild trust between both of you.

-Men will look at women until they die, they can't help it. It is built within their operating system, if you get mad when he looks at other women he might just look at them to tease you, or he will take a sneak peek from time to time, just ignore him.

Some women think that their men find other women more attractive, but the simple truth is that men are attached to the physical looks more than women. And they generally have visual characteristic.

You cannot build trust if you believe something mysterious ruined your relationship, He/she will find you childish and dreaming. Just avoid those killer mistakes, and you will find soon how to win heart back again, and it should not be that difficult.

(Few Extract from a mail received and and ezinearticles.com)